Fear Is Good … Here’s Why.
Guest Post by Tina Forsyth
Fear is getting a bad rap.
Fear is often the reason a virtual support professional does NOT do something … versus the reason for them TO DO something.
Would you agree? As a Virtual Assistant, freelancer or other virtual support professional, you likely experienced some fear when you decided to officially open your business doors.
For me, fear is a big indicator that I need to do something. If I’m scared, it means I most likely need to go in that direction.
My personal believe is, that as human beings, we are meant to grow. We are meant to take on new stuff. Learning new things, supporting clients in new roles and new challenges – it’s natural to feel fear when you step into these areas – especially when you haven’t explored them before.
Fear itself can take many different forms, and will vary by individual and situation. Here are a few fears that many virtual support professionals face”:
- fear of looking like a fool
- fear of losing money
- fear of not making money
- fear of upsetting people close to you
- fear of not knowing if you can do what you want to do… etc.
Which of these can you relate to?
My previous mentor David Neagle calls this the “terror barrier”. The “terror barrier” is a natural part of life and growth.
We all come up against our own terror barriers – especially in business. And we have to decide whether we want to work through them or run away.
A word of caution – even if you run away from those terror barriers, they will follow you. And the longer they follow you, the bigger they get – darn them!
So, you may as well face the fear … right?
I’ve done my fair share of having to ‘stare fear in the eye’ and put plainly, it can suck at times.
For example, a few years ago when I decided to sign up to work with a mentor, that was a HUGE fear moment for me. I was terrified to take that step, as I knew it was a commitment to me and my business to play a bigger game. Quite honestly I didn’t know if I could do it.
Want to know what thoughts crossed my mind? You might be able to relate
- Who am I to create a super cool and thriving biz?
- What if I fail and lose oodles of money?
- What if I suck at it and people point and laugh at me?
- And many more other crazy thoughts
Here’s what I believe: Fear is an invitation. It’s an invitation for us to learn a lesson.
Whatever it is that we fear, there’s a gift waiting for you on the other side … but only if you’re willing to step into it. If you don’t step into it, you don’t get the gift. It’s as simple as that.
Facing fear is like building a muscle, the more we do it the more we are able to do it.
Fear doesn’t always get easier as there is always a s-t-r-e-t-c-h required when facing fear (and it can be uncomfortable!). However, I do believe that half the battle is actually resisting our fear – running away takes a lot of energy! If you stop resisting fear and instead step into it then the entire process could be much less painful in the long run.
Now, when I reach that “eek!” moment – that nauseous feeling in the pit of my stomach – I know it’s something that I need to do. This is the main indicator for me of what I need to do next in my business.
When was the last time you did something that scared the pants off of you?
What is it that you are most afraid of doing right now, in this moment, for you and your business? Please share your comments … I really would love to know.