How to Deal With Difficult Virtual Assistant Clients
Do you have any VA clients that you kind of dread dealing with?
You know the ones. The ones who give you anxiety when you see their name in your email inbox or on your phone. The ones whose work you do because you need the money but you really wish you had a different client.
To figure out how to deal with difficult clients, let’s first talk about what kinds of clients might be considered difficult:
• Constantly gives you work to do on short turnarounds or deadlines, or changes their mind often
• Treats every task like an emergency
• Sends an email or calls you every time they have a thought
• Complains or scrutinizes your invoice and billable time
• Constantly tries to sneak more things into a defined (or undefined) scope of work
• Speaks to you like you are an employee, or is mean, aggressive or rude to you in any way
Wow that list could have kept going!
There are a lot of difficult clients out there. As service professionals, it’s natural for many VAs to want to be helpful and do whatever the client needs. But it can create volatile relationships between the VA and the client – and many times things go from bad to worse fast.
So what can we do to deal with difficult clients?
Well, first you need to analyze what the problem is. It’s not personal – we need to act like business owners in every aspect of our businesses, and that includes identifying why the client is behaving in a way that we think they should not behave.
How is your behaviour contributing to this problem?
With clients, you teach them how to treat you. So how are you letting your clients treat you?

Short Deadlines
If you are actually doing the work when they send it to you late, or allowing them to do countless revisions, you are teaching them that you will get it done no matter what. Or if they treat everything they send you like an emergency the same thing can happen. Instead: Give the client firm lead times and tell them that they need to abide by them in order for the work to get done on their deadline.
Communication Issues
If you pick up the phone or respond to every email the client sends, you are teaching them that you are putting their schedule ahead of your own. Instead: Schedule a regular phone call (weekly) with your client so they can have your undivided attention. Make sure all other project or task requests go through your project management system or whatever communication policy you have set up.
Critiques Your Invoice
If you are providing detailed billing for your clients, you run the risk of them scrutinizing every point on the invoice. Instead: Your clients are paying you for your expertise – and yes, to get the work done – but you may want to revisit just HOW detailed your billing is (consider detailing the tasks completed on your bill instead of the minutes).
Scope Creep
If you keep saying yes every time a client asks you to do something, you will soon be doing more than you agreed to, probably for the same amount of money. Instead: Define what tasks you will do within the agreement you have with any client. If something new comes along, address it immediately with your client to discuss how to fit in into their work – and address additional billing if necessary.
Aggressive or Rude Behaviour
If your client is speaking to you in a tone that you don’t like, that is absolutely not okay. Of course business is business, and it’s not personal, but some clients do cross this line. If they consider you to be their employee, some clients will speak to you like you are beneath them. Instead: Assert yourself as the client’s equal – and fire the client if necessary. You are not their employee and there is never any reason for aggressive language or behaviour.
In a service based business like a VA, our personalities need to fit together properly in order to get the work done in a professional manner. If you have any clients that you consider to be difficult, first assess why this is happening.
Try to identify if there is anything you can do to make adjustments to the behaviour by reinforcing boundaries or policies, or having a discussion with the client to make things right.
We are in business for the long term, and part of that is finding clients that we love, and that love us!
If you are dealing with a difficult client and you aren’t sure how to handle it, I invite you to reach out to me for a complimentary Cut to the Chase call with me: www.canadianava.org/15-min. I know what it’s like to go through something like this and I’d love to help you push through the fear of handling it.
My biggest problem with a current client is that there is no communication. I have tried emailing him and tried calling him. No response. Even when he actually had work for me to do, there were no directives as to what he wanted, e.g. special formatting. I created a flyer for him which he basically used as a template and re-did. My thought was he didn’t tell me exactly what he wanted in the flyer or how it was to be set up/layed out to begin with.
Around the end of April, he texted me that he was going to send me more documents to work on. I haven’t heard from him since then. He never sent the documents. I have tried emailing and tried phoning him. His voicemail is now a generic “leave a message,” nothing else, e.g. “You have reach Joe Smith. I can’t take your call right now …” I have decided to terminate the contract.